What's Love got To Do with It?

Dear You, 

There’s a quiet unraveling that can begin in midlife.
You might not notice it all at once—but one day, the mirror feels unfamiliar.
The things that used to bring joy feel dull.
The lightness between you and your partner is harder to find.
And deep down, you might be wondering, “Where did I go?”

If you're feeling off in ways you can’t quite explain—more anxious, more sensitive, more short-tempered, more everything—you are not crazy. You are not failing. And you are definitely not alone.

This is perimenopause. Or menopause.
And it’s not just hot flashes and missed periods—though those can be brutal.

It’s rage that hits you out of nowhere, like a wave you didn’t see coming.
It’s feeling like you're walking around with no skin—everything grates, everyone needs something, and you’re just… done.
It’s the quiet scream inside when someone calls you “hormonal” or jokes about your mood.
It’s the bone-deep resentment that no one warned you about this, that you're supposed to keep functioni...

Alright, let’s get real for a second. If you’re reading this, it’s likely that you’re feeling disconnected in your relationship. Maybe you’ve tried counselling, maybe not, but you’ve hit a point where it feels like you’re just stuck. Same arguments. Same emotional walls. It’s exhausting, right?

Let me tell you something. This isn’t about just fixing “communication problems” or figuring out who’s right and who’s wrong. It’s about rebuilding the emotional bond between you and your partner. That’s what makes a 2-day Relationship Intensive so powerful. Instead of the usual fortnightly routine, this deep dive helps you understand and shift the patterns that are driving disconnection. It’s a focused, immersive experience that can get you and your partner back on the same team. 

I’ve been working with couples for years, and here’s why this approach is so different from traditional therapy and why it works.

1. Go Deeper Than the Everyday Conflicts

You’ve probably been through it—talking ab...

Picture this: You're sitting in a therapist's office, trying to open up about your relationship issues, but you just can't get comfortable in that stiff, unforgiving chair. You fidget, you shift, you wonder if  the counsellor is secretly judging you for not being able to sit still. Meanwhile, your mind is racing with questions: Should you have prioritised chair comfort when choosing a relationship counsellor? Can you really trust a therapist who doesn't care about their clients tushes? Fear not, my chair loving friends - in this step by step guide, I'll help you navigate the tricky terrain of finding the right relationship counsellor and the perfect place to park your tush. Get ready to sit back, relax and discover the comfiest path to better relationships!

First things first: it's important to acknowledge that choosing a relationship counsellor based solely on their chairs may not be the most effective strategy. After all, a therapist's qualifications, experience and counselling appr...